I received the following messages from a German lady via a German networking site. Messages say it all. Sorry for the poor English, she’s not a native speaker and I didn’t want to modify the messages and just post as is ..

M. S. wrote 29.12.2009:

greetings from munich and i have a very important question do you have aknow about md,magdi abbas? computerhardware ingeneer?age 60-65?he worked for siemens a.moved in germany 83-86 please tell me if you can thank you micaela.

i forget, he live in cairo a.i was search him direct there in 89 but no result.

and his wish when he was young, was to be a airfligth pilot sorry for disturb! have a nice 2010!micaela

I was quite inactive on the site for a long while, got back and checked my messages to find the above, it was astonishing to see someone still searching for another who lost contact with for 24 years, I got back with a reply that I don’t know him but I find that inspirational and asked for more details about it and she responded saying:

M. S. wrote 23.04.2010:

Hello Mr. A.Magdy, now I was complete schocked to read the name Mr.Md. Magdi Abbas ,because today i should be not here about my 50 birthday!. Suddely looked the Name! At first thank you for answer me! Too, too long time triedto find out this man! Went to Cairo, such him -surch the post office, where my letters gone before! Many things done, only about him.So i came here to yasni Person surching -machine And as i saw your name, so my first thought was:You are his son may? Weloosed each other, it was my foult -not his!

He stayed at 1987 in Washington DC.- Maryland to reach anew Diplom as A Computer -Ingeneer.I think -it was hardware -technics-.That i try to find out all the name about him in Cairo,and all streetnames via mapcard –than i got a warning from egyptian gouverment.what i want and try here to find out.

Becaus one of a minister with the same name have.Thats about no informations more Yes, so again start surch from here Thats all slii ican explain You at first ! Only, that this man worked and moved around the world for siemens -ccompany! If intern or extern this question is out of my knowing,sorry.

He have one son and one dougther -she may one year older than son. Wifes name Fatme /Fatima. Now is only my qestion-he is alive and stay healthy or he is gone with angels ?? Thats all for the moment. i wait now 23 years -so never mind for few days more .Thank You, have a nice free friday up to next time! Ma selam

That was touching!

- Abdo

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Hey Everyone,

Keeping track of some Tweets on forgiveness for future posts

@Rana_Asaad It depends if the person made wrong to you sincerely apologized, you should. If not, I have a word there.

@Rana_Asaad Sometimes we deceive ourselves that we forgive while we really don’t and shouldn’t

@Rana_Asaad If the person made wrong to you still holding the same position, don’t lean till they apologize to your satisfaction

@Rana_Asaad As the person didn’t acknowledge the mistake and ask for forgiveness, then forgiveness is an act of weakness & idiocy!

Let’s look to the act of prophet Joseph and his forgiveness to his brothers who not only tried to kill him, but spoke bad about him too.

After they got to meet while he’s in a high position in Egypt and it had been decided for his bro to stay as of stealing something

The brothers who united in killing Joseph said what, they said he’s just a thief like his other brother!!

What did prophet Jospeh did? forgiveness, no he said بل أنتم شراً مكانا, والله أعلم بما تصفون

Forgiveness from a prophet didn’t come until they acknowledged their mistake and boldly stated their error, قال لا تثريب عليكم اليوم

@Rana_Asaad Oh, I was just having the same thoughts and get to that conclusion, that’s why have a lot to say

@Rana_Asaad I have no solution to that point, It seems easier not to hold -VE feelings, for anyone, but who said that if you forgive ..

@Rana_Asaad The person won’t take advantage of you and you’ll end up with more -VE feelings!

some people idealize forgiveness to the extend of making it the only solution when mistakes is done to you this is delusional forgiveness!!

It’ll make you a better person to let it go and move on. Are those individuals more righteous than prophet Joseph?

We’re programmed that the opposite of forgiveness is revenge which is a bad thing indeed.

The point is just you need to put ‘em in the position where they say sorry, just to forgive ‘em

This is called social punishment, in which you’re protecting your fellows from going through similar exp. by punishing the wrong-doers

Finally, you’ll clean the society from wrong behavior as that person will think 1000 times before making the same mistake again

You’ll clean your heart from any form of hatred, as egoistically there is no reason not to forgive someone saying “I’m sorry”

Amazing video on Real Forgiveness: http://youtu.be/iv50xrsFNdU?a Acknowledge your mistakes, you’re punished “in prison” then I forgive you!

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Hey All,

I had an interesting chat with an amazing service on Twitter called @WikiOsra An Arabic family and relationship portal, As the Twitter stream fade away with time I thought to keep it here unedited and get back to a post whenever I have more time.

@wikiosra Well, let’s say it’s about the actions after breaking-up. I’ll give you some real examples.

@wikiosra Let’s assume 2 break-ups and I’ll present the concept through ‘em. a basic background would be necessary.

@wikiosra Assume that the girl started showing interest, while the guy isn’t considering it at all, and that goes on for months.

@wikiosra In which the girl will demonstrate readiness to do whatever to get into this relationship. Let’s say the guy falls for it

@wikiosra After which she changes completely to a bit deceptive mind-gamer, may be wounded for the time she considered herself ignored.

@wikiosra Let’s say during these mind-games she makes a Major mistake that’s not acceptable by the guy and he takes a sharp step backward

@wikiosra Assuming that a step had to be taken for her side to fix things up, which doesn’t come then. He announces no-interest anymore.

@wikiosra In a very nice and forgiving way as that shouldn’t be done like that, but there is no problem I forgive but can’t accept it.

@wikiosra Let’s assume that her social circle @ college for example were aware of what’s going on and accordingly after that kind break-up

@wikiosra And forgiveness she goes to deceptive talks and situations and intentionally prepared set-ups. Should we consider forgiveness?

@wikiosra What if we don’t actually feel like forgiving out of experiencing these set-ups. After forgiving and talking nicely!

@wikiosra that’s the first analogy to demonstrate when and with whom we shouldn’t announce forgiveness. May be one of the main reasons

@wikiosra That person went forward with deceptive games knowing that she’s forgiven & not feel the size of the mistakes.

@wikiosra The point here also has to do with the perception of the social circle to that break-up. Something girls care much about.

@wikiosra Let’s go with the 2nd analogy. Break-up time and as we know in a relationship, not everything is known to everyone outside.

@wikiosra The guys announces a complete verified story about the deceptiveness of the girl he broke-up with.

@wikiosra Everyone boldly knows what went wrong and the society conceives the issue as it is. The other partner find no way outta that.

@wikiosra everything is shown now in context. And as a someone Major wrong had been done to you, you feel much better now

@wikiosra Assume that you have a chance to talk with that ex, the conversation would be with her realizing the bold mistake she’s done.

@wikiosra Now, she can say sorry, I made wrong to you. And you as a forgiving person, now you’re perfectly entitled to forgive and let it go

@wikiosra This forgiveness didn’t happen till and shouldn’t until the partner sincerely apologize and acknowledge his/her mistakes.

@wikiosra If you make-up forgiveness as the society says that forgiveness is a good thing and you’ll feel better after it.

@wikiosra you’ll actually end-up with a deeper offense and don’t forgive this time, so you lost the feeling of forgiving and more.

@wikiosra But when you put people in the position to feel their need to apologize and they realize their major mistake.

@wikiosra Then I can judge you whether you’re forgiving or not. But before being in this situation, you’re just trying to make urself feel better

@wikiosra So, I’m trying to say that the concept of “Social Punishment” if most likely to protect the community than unbounded forgiveness

@wikiosra http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iv50xrsFNdU This is a good analogy to forgiveness, after stating mistakes first.

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Hi there,

I’m currently outing with part of my family in 6 October city club, while having loads of work back home, that got me thinking a bit of our concept and activities while having a family outing! I think a typical family outing since childhood haven’t change much, as you can imagine I do find time while outing for writing a blog post, would that be an indicator that it’s not so much fun for an old 22 years old guy like myself.

The most amazing trip and outings I had lately was to Alex, with only the guys around my age in the family, we all agreed that we had amazing time and we all enjoyed ourselves. So, why don’t we enjoy family outing with the family including older members of the family as much as with the peers. does it have to do with the activities we can involve in, freedom? or is it about selfishness of the young ages who want to just fly or blog?

Is it supposed to be like that all the time, or family outing is something we usually do wrong? We should enjoy our time with the older members of our family, right?

What do you guys think?

P.S. this is not to be understood that I’m not enjoying my time, I’m just having thoughts about how to make outing with the family a better experience for everyone. I’ll get back with my suggestions later on ..

- Abdo

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